Dr. Sue Egan | Counselling Psychologist | EMDR Specialist | Suicide Grief Coach

I never imagined I’d be on this path. But when grief shattered my world, it also revealed my purpose.

The Day My Life Changed

Ten years ago, my brother Andrew went missing. I clung to hope. Told myself he just needed space.

But then the phone rang.

“They’ve found him.”

“He took his own life.”

Time stopped.

That night, after making the most heartbreaking calls of my life, I found myself scrubbing the kitchen walls at 2 a.m. I didn’t know what else to do. Grief had no roadmap. My nervous system was in chaos, my mind spiraling through disbelief, guilt, anger, confusion, and despair.

I was a single mother to four children, in the middle of my doctoral training, trying to hold together a family alone while breaking apart silently inside.

And I couldn’t stop asking: How do you live after someone you love dies in such a horrific way? How do I carry on working when it feels like life has no meaning anymore?

Grieving Isn’t Just Sadness

It’s trauma. It’s identity loss. It’s spiritual collapse. It’s trying to function in a world that no longer makes sense.

In the months that followed, I couldn’t face birthdays or holidays. I drowned myself in tea, sugar, noise, or numbness — anything to avoid the stillness where grief lived.

Well-meaning people said all the wrong things: “At least he’s at peace now.” “Time will heal.”

But strength wasn’t the problem. What I needed was space. Understanding. Tools. A path.

Eventually, I sat in a therapist’s office and said:

“It’s like my whole belief system shattered. And I don’t know which piece to pick up first.”

That moment marked the beginning of something sacred.

“Life’s challenges, including losing my Dad to suicide was too overwhelming to even know how to process and impacted and influenced my daily life. I lost myself, but Sue has provided the support to help ‘process’ things, make things manageable by approaching life through a new ‘lens’ and ultimately finding and loving myself again. I will be eternally grateful.”

Kate

My Healing Journey

I combined evidence-based therapy like EMDR with ritual, nature, and therapeutic grief work. I let myself feel — not just cope. I studied how trauma lives in the brain and the body. I reclaimed my story. And I began to rebuild my identity — not in spite of my loss, but through it.

I ran the London Marathon in my brother’s memory to raise awareness for suicide prevention. I conducted doctoral research into suicide bereavement. I became a guide for others navigating what I once thought I’d never survive.

Why I Created This Work

As a registered psychologist, certified EMDR therapist, coach and suicide grief specialist, I offer something rare:

A grounded, integrative approach to traumatic grief that honours both the science of trauma and the sacredness of love and memory.

Whether you are experiencing flashbacks, guilt, emotional overwhelm, or spiritual disconnection — you are not broken. You are grieving. And healing is possible.

Today, I Help People Like You

• RECLAIMING YOU Coaching Programme
• Family EMDR intensives
• Transformational EMDR Grief Retreats
• The Healing of Narratives of Suicide Grief Podcast

My clients are often mothers who are trying to hold it together for the sake of their kids — women who feel like they’ve lost their identity, direction, or ability to cope.

I help them:

• Understand how trauma affects their nervous system.
• Reconnect with their purpose and values.
• Release guilt and shame.
• Create meaning from loss.

My Approach

I blend:

• EMDR-informed therapy for trauma and grief
• Grief Coaching Methods for understanding, transformation and growth




• Grief-specific frameworks: Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Continuing Bonds, and the Dual Process Model of grief.

Grief is not a linear process. It’s a sacred passage. You don’t need to be strong. You need support.

If you are living in the wake of suicide loss, I want you to know: You are not alone. Your grief matters. And you don’t have to carry it all by yourself.

Let’s walk this passage together — from Pain to Purpose.